{"id":775327,"date":"2025-02-21T08:02:36","date_gmt":"2025-02-21T08:02:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.architectsjournal.co.uk\/?p=775327"},"modified":"2025-02-21T09:36:34","modified_gmt":"2025-02-21T09:36:34","slug":"the-coach-how-do-i-gain-more-confidence-in-my-abilities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.architectsjournal.co.uk\/news\/opinion\/the-coach-how-do-i-gain-more-confidence-in-my-abilities","title":{"rendered":"The Coach: How do I gain more confidence in my abilities?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I had my appraisal recently and my manager brought up that I need to have \u2018more confidence in my abilities and knowledge\u2019. I try to show my skills and knowledge to anyone who needs it, or shows some interest. So what does this mean? How do I gain more confidence?\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

It could be a variety of things that have brought on this suggestion, and it often comes down to how you communicate.<\/p>\n

Think about how you interact with people. Perhaps you frequently seek reassurance from your manager or others that you\u2019re doing something the right way, when at some level you know you\u2019ve been over it in the past, or it\u2019s a repeat of something already discussed.<\/p>\n

It could also be about coming forward. Speak up when you have ideas or opinions, even if someone else in the discussion thinks differently. You\u2019ll need to use judgment on this, of course, but if it\u2019s a topic that you work with a lot and if you\u2019ve specifically been asked to weigh in, do so.<\/p>\n

If you feel uncertain about exactly what decision-making authority you have, clarify this by talking to your manager about it, so that you\u2019re not guessing and can act with more confidence, with the standing to take certain actions and make certain decisions on your own.<\/p>\n

Pay attention to what you\u2019re conveying with your language and tone of voice. Do you end sentences with a question mark that aren\u2019t truly questions? Try to get rid of fillers that undermine your point like \u2018I\u2019m not sure but \u2026\u2019 or \u2018this might not be the right approach but \u2026\u2019<\/p>\n

If none of this resonates or feels quite like what you think your manager would be talking about, it\u2019s okay to ask her!<\/p>\n

Whenever you get feedback and you\u2019re not quite clear on the meaning, it\u2019s always better to ask than to try to guess. You can say something like: \u2018You\u2019ve mentioned that you\u2019d like me to have more confidence in my abilities and I really want to. But just to check I\u2019m interpreting that as meaning x<\/em>.\u2019<\/p>\n

AJ Coach Matthew Turner is an architect and careers consultant who runs the Building on Architecture consultancy. Email him in confidence at <\/i>hello@buildingonarchitecture.com<\/i><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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